Some years back, while I was living in Beaverton, Oregon trying to raise a family, and while I was the stay-at-home father and the mother was working full time outside the home, unbeknownst to me my psycho ex-mother-in-law, Bonnie Oekerman, and her equally psycho daughter, Faye Oekerman, were keeping the apartment that Wendy, our two daughters, and I were living in under surveillance.
Here is what the psycho ex-mother-in-law would do. She would come to Beaverton from her residence in Oceanside, Oregon, where she and her husband had a business ripping off the locals, and she would stay at the Ambassador Hotel in Tigard, Oregon. The Ambassador Hotel in Tigard is very near Beaverton, Oregon.
Then she would snoop around our apartment complex, make friends with one or more of the residents (usually by telling them lies about me and my family) and then she would spy on us surreptitiously. Her psycho daughter, who lived in Hillsboro, Oregon, also near Beaverton, would also spy on me and my family.
During the school year it was my habit to get up early, make breakfast for the girls (they were in elementary school), walk them to the bus stop, and make sure they got off to school. Then I would clean the apartment and do whatever shopping needed to be done, study, and then meet them at the bus stop when they got off the bus after school.
We lived in an apartment with an indoor swimming pool and so, usually, at least once a day, the girls would go swimming with their friends and I would play lifeguard and watch them. It helped that in my younger days I actually was a lifeguard. Studying and learning and then actually doing lifeguard duty were some of the jobs being on a swim team entailed. That and learning how to clean pools and keep them clean.
Had I known what the sleazy Oekerman family was up to I would have been much more apprehensive. But, can you believe that they would stoop so low as to stalk me and my family after I divorced the psycho Faye Oekerman in 1980. AND GET THIS!!!!!!! My mother and sister were helping them and lying to me about it!!!! Don't the Oekerman's believe in amicable divorce, or does a person have to be continually stalked and hunted when leaving the psycho Oekerman family? What do they think they are...some crime family nobody can get out of?????!!!!!
Click here for the beginning, when I first met the psycho ex-mother-in-law from Hell.
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Holy Cow! Your ex mother in law sounds like MY ex mother in law. She has been driving by my house at all hours, making hangup calls, and telling everyone she can that I am "nothing but a worthless whore". All because her son and I are getting a divorce. We are getting a divorce because he came out as GAY. She refuses to believe it, telling everyone that we are getting a divorce because I was cheating on him. (Which I was not).
Her latest happened just a few days ago. She called in fake reservations to a restaurant in town, giving the names Smith/Caroli, and my phone number. OUR last name is Smith...Caroli is the last name of this girl she works with. She knew that the restaurant would call ME to confirm the reservations....and they would tell me that in essence he was "dating" Courtney Caroli. (Helloooo, dear mother in law, he is GAY.)
So, after I get the message, I call and leave a message for him to return the call to the restaurant regarding his reservations. I was not rude in this message, in fact, this is all I said. HIS MOTHER TOOK IT UPON HERSELF TO CALL THE RESTAURANT, TELLING THEM THAT I AM "JUST TRYING TO MAKE TROUBLE IN THEIR FAMILY", AND I AM "A WORTHLESS WHORE". SHE ALSO TOLD THEM THAT SHE IS "HAVING ME TAKEN OUT."
So, the restaurant manager calls me, then calls the police. SHE WAS CHARGED WITH FELONY STALKING. HA HA HA.
Today I got a call from the officer that took the stalking report. Apparently the MIL from hell is at it again. She made an "anonymous" call to Child Protective Services, claiming that the children are neglected, I have no food in the house, and she *suspects* I am doing drugs. She also claims my house is filthy. Of course, none of it is true. So when CPS shows up tomorrow..they will see she is full of shit. One more mark against HER. LOL
AREN'T MOTHERS IN LAW GRAND?
Posted by: Eva at November 28, 2003 12:31 AM | Link
If your psycho mother-in-law from hell is as crazy as mine was, she'll probably end up stalking you for years. Your mother in law might even manage to get some allies to help her in her endeavors to destroy you like my crazy ex-mother-in-law did. I wish you the best of luck.
In my case, my ex's family just can't get over the fact that I don't like them or their white supremacist beliefs or their hatred of their fellow Americans or their jealousy and envy of everbody around them.
My ex's family and their allies have spent over twenty years trying to punish me for divorcing the psycho ex-wife and it sounds like your psycho ex-mother-in-law is trying to punish you for breaking up with her son.
Posted by: John Hays at November 28, 2003 12:26 PM | Link
Well, Where do I begin?? I don't have problems with my ex-inlaws...It is my husband's ex and her family and friends..
It all started back in 1999 when I married my husband and moved to his town..Everything was ok when we were dating and he would come visit me..Which I lived 5 hours away...But when we got married and I moved in with him all HELL Broke loose and has been since...
They have chased my daughters out of town...They don't even want to come home to visit and if they do...It is for a couple of hours and they leave to go home...If the ex or anyone they know spot them in town they are calling the cops and accusing them of pulling guns on them or running them off the road or calling them and harrassing on the phone...Needless to say my daughters aren't doing that..They both are in the Medical Field..But it is a way to control..I guess..
I have had to quit 2 jobs because they have started problems at my jobs for me by calling and saying all kinds of stuff...They go around town and bad mouth my daughters and my self..
I have been slammed up against my vehicle, threatened, punched in the face. repeatedly by the ex's new boyfriends...Now funny thing about all this is the Police Department won't help...Because the Sheriff has the hots for the ex..So he doesn't want to do anything to make them mad..Because he wants to go out her... So nothing is being done and he says it is normal the way she acts...
The ex goes around telling people she wants my husband down on his knees in front her so she can put a bullet between his eyes...We have that on tape and played it for the Police Department and they told us that there wasn't anything we could do because she didn't say it to them..And it has been going on for almost 5 years and we aren't dead yet..But if something does happen they will know who to question...YA RIGHT!!!!
They drive by our house all hours of the day or night..call us all the time and hang up...all hours of the day or night..We have changed our number 4 times..and have it unlisted and they still find out the number..they drive by and take pictures of our house..why I don't know..
And when I have called the police..they tell me they have a right to do all that..and it is not stalking or harrassing..and we need to grow up and quit picking on them...I even got yelled at by the sheriff for having my vette in my driveway...He accused me of showing it off and he has gotten a complaint on it and if he gets anymore complaints...He was turning them over to the County Attorney and have charges brought up on me....
We have thought about moving but I don't want to go through this where I move to..Do they follow you if you move???
Staying home and not talking to anyone doesn't help or end it...People only hear their side..
Does anyone have any answers????
Posted by: Annette Sayer at February 2, 2004 06:38 PM | Link
Annette, it sounds like your husband's ex-wife and her family act like a "pack of rabid, wild dogs". "Pack of rabid, wild dogs" is the term a lot of people have used to describe my ex-wife (the one I divorced in 1980) and her psycho family.
I don't know what the answer is. You have to realize you're dealing with people who are, for all practical purposes, criminally insane, so you can't deal with them on a rational basis.
In my case, my ex-wife and her psycho family were not raised believing anybody but them had any rights. The ex-wife's mother was a psycho that became unhinged when I wouldn't let her control every little aspect of my life.
I believe the decision to marry should be between the two people getting married, but my ex-wife and her psycho family thought that violence, threats, harassment and insane behavior should be used in order to get people to marry. Maybe my ex's family felt this was the only way to get my ex-wife married, but still, no matter how unattractive or mentally ill my ex-wife was, she still should have had the opportunity to find someone who would marry her willingly. And then, if she actually did find someone to marry her willingly, she should have had the opportunity to make decisions with her husband without the "control freak" machinations of her family and her family's friends.
In my case, shortly after I tried to tell her after the first date that we shouldn't go out again, she and her idiot family became obsessed with stalking me and, later on, with destroying me. They continued to stalk me after we were married and after we were divorced. The ex and her family even stalked me across state lines. They also stalked women I went out with after the divorce and many of my friends over the years.
Somehow they even got my sister, Chris Andrea Hays, and my mother, Neta Hays, to help them. Recent info indicates they actually were able to bribe my relatives to help them.
Ny ex and her family and their psycho friends have actually been able to interfere, for twenty years, with my efforts to maintain employment, get a college degree, maintain a family with another female other than the ex-wife, and many other aspects of life most people take for granted.
Posted by: John Hays at February 3, 2004 03:50 PM | Link