No matter how many times my relatives and the mentally ill Victor Oekerman clan cause me to break up with women I'm going out with, I'm never going to be in their cult and I'm not going back to that violent, psychopathic, lying, thieving, ugly, stupid ex-wife by the name of Faye Marie Oekerman. I divorced her in 1980 and I don't care how many times my relatives and those idiots in the cult or the Oekerman family tell me that I married her forever, I'm not going back to her. She's a violent psycho who kept trying to kill me.
I also wish my relatives and the psycho Victor Oekerman clan would quit pretending I abandoned her, that I'm still married to her, and that I will eventually come back to her.
I just found out that the psycho ex-wife's father, sleazy Victor, secretly went to a couple of women I was going out with and........get this........when he and his cult couldn't get some of the women to hate me and break up with me, he and some of his buddies bribed some of the women to break up with me. All of this crap just so I would go back to his psycho daughter and be in his idiot cult. He even had the help of a psycho cop in Washington County, Oregon and, of course, that blithering moron, Roger Weidner.
Some of this can be explained by the following excerpt from William A. Eddy, LCSW, Esq.
.....those with personality disorders perceive the world as a much more threatening place than most people do. Therefore, their perceptions of other people's behavior is often distorted -- and in some cases delusional. Their world view is generally adversarial, so they often see all people as either allies or enemies in it. Their thinking is often dominated by cognitive distortions, such as: all-or-nothing thinking, emotional reasoning, personalization of benign events, minimization of the positive and maximization of the negative. They may form very inaccurate beliefs about the other person, but cling rigidly to those beliefs when they are challenged -- because being challenged is usually perceived as a threat.People with personality disorders also appear more likely to make false statements. Because of the thought process of a personality disorder, the person experiences interpersonal rejection or confrontation much more deeply than most people. Therefore the person has great difficulty healing and may remain stuck in the denial stage, the depression stage, or the anger stage of grief -- avoiding acceptance by trying to change or control the other person.
Lying may be justified in their eyes -- possibly to bring a reconciliation. (This can be quite convoluted, like the former wife who alleged child sexual abuse so that her ex-husband's new wife would divorce him and he would return to her -- or so she seemed to believe.) Or lying may be justified as a punishment in their eyes. Just as we have seen that an angry spouse may kill the other spouse, it is not surprising that many angry spouses lie under oath. There is rarely any consequence for this, as family court judges often believe the truth cannot be known -- or that both are lying.
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