The True Story of the Psycho Ex-Mother-in-Law, Her Psycho Daughter, Their Psycho Christian Identity/Sovereign" Citizen Legal Advisor, Roger Weidner, and the Cult

This is the story of a real life psycho, homophobic, racist, spiteful, vindictive woman who became my mother-in-law; her unattractive, unintelligent, spiteful, vindictive, lazy, crazy daughter; and a few spiteful, vindictive members of their family. They were all members of a virulently racist, homophobic cult which has been stalking me for about twenty years.

These lunatics believe the following.

• White Anglo-Saxons, the supreme race, are God's chosen people because they were created by God and are the descendants of the lost "12 Tribes of Israel."



• Jews of today are false Jews and not the chosen people; instead they are the offspring of Satan as a result of Eve mating with the Serpent in the Garden of Eden. Some preachers say Jews "must be killed."



• God will send another savior to restore the state of Israel to the rightful people; all others will be condemned.



• Nonwhites are soulless "mud people."



• Isolationism and segregation are required; socializing with Jews or people of other races is condemned.



• Interracial marriage, or mating with a non-white, is a sin.



• In some parishes, pastors call for the death penalty for homosexuals.



• Other religions gloss over the true meaning of the Bible, therefore assisting in the erosion of society's morals.



• The mass media, controlled by the Jews, further erode our society's moral standards.

I didn't find out they were members of this cult until many years later when I finally identified who had been stalking me for many years. After the divorce from the psycho ex-wife in 1980, she and her idiot family became convinced I was part of an International, Intergenerational Satanic Cult and that not only was I subjected to Satanic Ritual Abuse as a child but that I was doing Satanic Abuse Rituals as an adult.

Believe it or not, these loonies managed to convince my sister, Chris Andrea Hays, and my mother, Neta Hays, that they, too, had been abused in Satanic Ritual Abuse as children and that I was carrying on the tradition. While I was away in the Navy from 1980 - 1984 my ex-wife and her loony cult sort of made my mother and my sister insane with all these stupid beliefs and they also convinced some members of my family that I was one of the evilest people on the planet. Another guy had a sister who went nuts and made up some silly lies. The following is an excerpt from A Letter to My Sister.

What happened in the summer of 1996 was not your fault. Like tens of thousands of other people, you have been misled by a well-meaning but misinformed therapist. She meant well, but she misdiagnosed your symptoms as evidence of repressed memories of ritual satanic abuse. She gave you a simple, easy answer for the very real pain you've been feeling-- that all your problems are your family's fault and the result of ritual satanic abuse--instead of the true answer--the sadness we all felt due to Mom's long illness and repeated hospitalizations. Your therapist's "memory recovery" techniques are extremely dangerous because they carry the risk of creating a strong belief in "false memories," seemingly-real memories of events which in fact never occurred. Her "theories" of "memory recovery" are grounded in a misunderstanding of how memory works and have been rejected by every responsible scientific and medical organization that has examined them. Please read the official practice guidelines issued by the Royal College of Psychiatrists in a report called Reported Recovered Memories of Child Sexual Abuse: Recommendations for Good Practice and Implications For Training, Continuing Professional Development and Research, the Statement by the Board of the American Psychiatric Association on Memories of Sexual Abuse, and the American Psychological Association's Questions and Answers about Memories of Childhood Abuse and Report of the Working Group On Investigation of Memories of Childhood Abuse. Please compare these statements by professional organizations to the claims made by your therapist. Here are some examples of the false beliefs that developed in your mind during this therapy:

• You wrote in your letter that both of us were the victims of ritual satanic abuse as children, but I'm quite sure I've never been abused physically, sexually, or emotionally by anyone.
• You broke up with your ex-boyfriend because you felt he was under the control of a satanic cult, and you told him in your letter to him that "it was in my third therapy session" that you realized that he too was the victim of satanic abuse as a child. But he is quite sure that nothing like this has ever happened to him either.
• You wrote in your letter that your body bears scars from sexual abuse and efforts to conceal it. Would you please see a doctor and ask her to confirm this?
• You wrote that there are hundreds of bodies buried under a gazebo on our grandparents' old property. There was never a gazebo on that property.
• You wrote that there are bodies buried in the backyard of our home. I'll be happy to get out shovels and dig with you until you're satisfied that this is not true.

The reason I created this web site is that I want to prevent other young women from being misled the way you were and other families from having their hearts broken the way ours was. After all the pain that I have been through, I cannot sit silently by while this cult--and that's what it is--exploits other emotionally troubled young women for their money and shatters other innocent families. The Memory Recovery Cult must be stopped, and I'm going to do everything I can to stop it. I wish you had given me a chance to talk with you about these things before you made the accusations, cut off all contact with us, and disappeared. Again, what you did is not your fault. The Memory Recovery Cult teaches its victims to make "hit and run" accusations and to cut off all contact without giving the accused people a chance to defend themselves. It has to. People who have been through so-called Memory Recovery Therapy quickly come to believe things which aren't true and often things which can easily be proven false, just as you have. If the movement gave the accused family members a chance to defend themselves, it would quickly be exposed for the fraud that it is. To prevent that, the movement teaches its believers to make the accusations and cut off all contact.

As you'll learn from reading the true narrative of events (posted below) leading up to me being stalked for twenty years, the psycho ex-mother-in-law (now deceased) and her mentally ill daughter had an extreme need to control every aspect of their pathetic lives. This need to control everything literally extended to everything, including relatives, friends and almost anybody this sick, pathetic family came into contact with.

But it wasn't just the psycho ex-mother-in-law and her daughter who were afflicted by the need to control everything, even the most minute aspects of their pathetic lives. It seems this affliction extended to some of their other relatives.

It's still amazing to me that this family is still trying to control me, any women I may go out with, and my children, and if they can't control my children or any women I go out, then this sick, pathetic family will try to destroy my children and any women I go out with, just like they've been trying to do to me for many, many years.

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Around 1979 I found myself living in Portland, Oregon. There I met a rather unattractive woman of easy virtue, dishonest character, below average intelligence, and an obsession with being popular. She was in a gang of drug dealers and prostitutes. I met her because she came into my place of employment and (with her boyfriend who was on parole from Arizona State Penitentiary) ripped off the merchandise.

As fate would have it sometime later she and I actually went on a date. After that first date I decided it would not be wise to pursue the relationship. However, she was adamant and soon began bugging me and my friends. She and her psycho friends followed us around and harrassed us where we lived. I lived in a dormitory on Portland State University at the time.

The day after our first date she called my boss and told him I lived with her and that I should give her money for groceries. (She actually needed the money for drugs for her and her gang.) I finally got my boss to come down from his high horse and not bug me to give her money. From that day on she made a practice of calling my various bosses over the years and trying to get them to order me to do what she ordered.

In part because she and her friends continuously bugged me to be her boyfriend and to give her money for this or that reason, I soon found myself paying her rent and hanging out at her apartment more and more.

Within a couple of weeks after our first date, I had sort of moved into her apartment because everytime I went back to spend a night in the dormitory, she and her friends would come over and bug me to go to her apartment. As they told me over and over, "You don't live in the dorm anymore. The apartment is your home now". Faye and her friends really knew how to harass a person.

Soon thereafter I met the future psycho mother-in-law.

The mother wanted to know why I was living with her daughter. And then... and then the psycho mother demanded that I marry her daughter.

And demanded......and demanded....and screamed... and over a period of a month or so even became violent when I refused. The crazy mother even screamed at me that if I didn't marry her daughter, her daughter's father wouldn't speak to his daughter.

I figured why marry the daughter when the daughter was still screwing half the guys on the block and the daughter was always drunk or high on drugs.

When I explained to the mother that marrying someone I had only known for a month or two was not a good idea, the mother, as usual, became furious.

The psycho mother remained furious with me throughout the short marriage with her daughter.

After the marriage the psycho mother-in-law showed an even more bizarre side.

She tried to tell us (her daughter and I) what we could eat and what we couldn't eat; what books we could and could not read; what television shows we could watch and not watch; what clothes we could wear and what not to wear; where we could live and where not to live.

The psycho mother-in-law even tried to tell us what we could and could not talk about.

Man, she was the ultimate control freak.

What is really bizarre, before, during, and after this short marriage, the psycho ex-mother-in-law's daughter continued to have a sleazy affair with her boyfriend behind my back.

One of the weird characteristics displayed by the daughter was a need to manipulate those around her. This included almost every guy she met.

Anyway, shortly after our first date, she tried to get her other boyfriend (the guy on parole) and I to fight over her. Apparently it worked. He attacked me with the head of a hatchet one afternoon after I got an anonymous message to meet him.

That sneaky attack put me in the hospital. It took me awhile to recover.

After I recovered somewhat, and after the daughter and I got married, we decided to move to Tucson, where I could enroll in the University of Arizona.

One of the undeclared reasons for moving to Tucson was to get the daughter away from her gang influences.

We moved to Tucson where I got a job working nights and made preparations to go to the University of Arizona.

However, unbeknownst to me, the daughter got involved with a gang once again and, apparently, committed some crimes with her new gang. This caused the Tucson cops to want her for various reasons. One night a couple of Tucson cops came to where I was working and asked me if I knew where she was at. I told them she was at home but it turns out she wasn't. Once Faye had found out she was wanted, she hightailed it back to her parents' house in Portland, Oregon.

Of course, she did all this without my knowledge. Later on, however, I found out she was pregnant.

Also, later on, during and after the divorce, she was able to hide from the Tucson cops and the Portland cops in Washington County, Oregon. Faye, her mother, and Roger Weidner cooked up a scheme to hide Faye from the cops that entailed falsely accusing me of various crimes, some of which are listed below. The part of the scheme that involved falsely accusing me of various crimes behind my back, I found out many years later, convinced some people to help hide her. I'm not sure, though, if the people helping Roger Weidner and the Oekermans hide Faye knew they were, in reality, hiding her from cops.

The following are just some of the crimes I was falsely accused of in order to gain sympathy for Faye so people would help Faye hide from the cops.

• Being a homosexual
• Having AIDS
• Being an ex-convict
• Being addicted to heroin and cocaine
• Being a pedophile
• Being a Satanist.
• Being a child molester
• Sniffing glue for years as an adolescent
• Being an arsonist
• Being a woman beater
• Shooting up a vehicle the ex-wife and I owned
• Being a bank robber
• Being a drug, guns, etc. smuggler
• Being a car thief
• Being a burglar
• Being married to the ex-wife when I'm not
• Being a forger
• Being a rapist

All this scheming, hiding, and falsely accusing me in order to hide Faye from the cops was done behind my back.

A couple of weeks after the daughter mysteriously disappeared from our residence in Tucson, I got a call from her telling me I had to move back up to Portland.

So I did. By necessity I had to move in with the ex-wife at her parents' house.

Because the ex-wife was pregnant I was expected to stay in the house at almost all times.

• I was not to go out and get a job.
• I was not to enroll in either the local community college or the university in Portland.
• I was not to do anything with friends.

Nevertheless, I did go out and get a job.

During this time the ex-wife became convinced I was having an affair with every woman I came into contact with.

Because the ex-wife was convinced I was having an affair with every woman I came into contact with, her hostility towards me was seemingly constant.

When I went to work she would come to my work and accuse me of having affairs, or of being a homosexual because many times after work (when I was working days) I would go out and play basketball or go to chess lessons or chess practice sessions.

The ex-wife even tried to run me over with a vehicle on a couple of occasions.

She would also spy on me from outside the building of where I worked.

After about a month of this nonsense I suggested we move out of her parents' house and get an apartment. The psycho ex-mother-in-law said, "No."

The ex-wife said, "No."

I said, "Yes" and moved into an apartment. The really difficult job was getting my stuff out of the psycho house. It was so difficult I was only able to retrieve a few of my belongings.

One day I made arrangements to come over and pick up some clothes. When I arrived at the psycho house the ex-mother-in-law slammed the door in my face and called the police.

As I was walking away, a cop car pulled up and hauled me off to jail where I paid fifty dollars bail and got out of jail.

The charge against me was criminal mischief. When I went to court the judge (Judge Brown of Multnomah County) threw the case out and gave my ex-mother-in-law a lecture about using his courtroom to manipulate me into staying in her house.

I found out later she had made the rounds around the courthouse trying to find someone to order me back into the psycho house.

My wife managed to get a lawyer by the name of Roger Weidner to be her divorce attorney. It turns out at the time this Roger Weidner was one of the most mentally ill, psychopathic citizens to ever inhabit Oregon. If you click on the link above and read about Roger, you will find he lies about almost everything and he instructs his clients, buddies, and members of his gang to falsely accuse almost everybody of heinous crimes.

Soon after moving into an apartment I realized my ex-wife's gang buddies were following me around. Soon after that I noticed guys in suits following me around.

Shortly before the divorce and on the day of the birth of my son I got a phone call from the ex-wife from the hospital telling me to get down to the hospital as fast as I could. So I did.

When I got to the hospital there was the psycho ex-mother-in-law. When she saw me she became furious. I found out later that I wasn't supposed to know when the son was born because the ex-in-laws had already made plans to terminate my parental rights without my knowledge.

Not only was the ex-mother-in-law furious, but she immediately ordered me to leave and when I didn't she ordered the nurses to order me to leave. At first they wouldn't do it, but after twenty or thirty minutes of the ex-mother-in-law screaming and getting in my face and blustering about like an unhinged loony, one of the nurses suggested I leave.

As I was about to leave the ex-mother-in-law rushed at me once more and I turned to her and said loudly something along the lines of "Get away from me, or I'll kill you," or something like that. I was hoping she would quit bothering and threatening and harassing me. But, she never did. Then I left the hospital. Shortly thereafter the ex-wife and I were divorced.

Well, lo and behold, I found out years later that the ex-mother-in-law, her daughter, and other denizens of their delusional world had been taking the advice of Roger Weidner to run around and scream at people, make false and ridiculous accusations against their perceived enemies, and act like complete idiots.


As I've said before, I didn't find out about it for almost eighteen years.

My relatives (John McClelland Hays, Neta Hays, and Chris Andrea Hays) and members of the Victor Oekerman/Roger Weidner cult have claimed since 1980 that I was still married to the psycho ex-wife (whom I divorced in 1980). Because of these claims and false accusations against me, the cult and my ex-wife, Faye Marie Oekerman, have been able to break into my various residences over the years and pretty much take whatever they want.

I was told by one of the psychopathic females of the cult that, "Well, you're still married to Faye Marie Oekerman and we like to keep things in the family".

I have recently found out that whenever I gave a gift to one of the women I was going out with, members of the Victor Oekerman clan would go to these women and tell them that since I was still married to psycho Faye Marie Oekerman the gift was actually supposed to go to Faye.

A couple of times members of the cult even told some of the women I went out with that I was psychotic and didn't realize that I was still married to Faye Marie Oekerman and that whatever gift or gifts I gave these women were in reality meant for Faye Marie Oekerman.

By pretending I was still married to the psycho ex-wife, the cult was able to steal my mail for years, to get into my bank account and steal money, and gain access to my credit cards.

I explain a little bit more about the cult's bizarre family law practices at this link.

Click here for the further adventures of the psycho ex-mother-in-law from hell.